No more Sunday Blues
If we shift our perspective from seeing life as a journey and rather experience it like you would a dance or a piece of music, then the focus shifts from the destination to the present. From this standpoint it is interesting to analyse our ‘heres’ and ‘nows’ to establish in what instances we feel at our best and what moments fill us with a sinking feeling we would rather not have. You might even keep a note of these moments and when feeling reflective read back and consider what these moments say about you. What you would like to be doing more of? What you would ideally avoid? See if these give you any pointers to assess opportunities for change.
If you manage people at work, then asking them to make this kind of ‘highs’ and ‘lows’ journal, and taking the time to have really honest discussions about the lists people come up with will give you an invaluable insight into your team. It will help you to understand their individual and group dynamics and not only make them feel more understood but could potentially give you some inspiring ideas around how you can allocate the roles within the group, or plan for somebody’s progression in a way that will give them an invaluable sense of fulfilment.
If we spend an average forty hours each week at work and every Sunday the feeling of dread is that bad, then instead of spending Sunday agonising over Monday, spend Sunday planning what would make Monday better? What does fulfilment look like for you? The cathartic exercise of coming up with ideas, a plan, can be a most empowering thing.
If you really consider the peaks and troughs of your week, the things that inspired those and gain a deeper understanding of what it is you love, and would like to be doing then you gain a sense of what your priorities are for feeling fulfilled. Alain de Botton suggests you keep ‘an envy diary’ of instances when you hear of something somebody does and feel a pang of jealousy. Those pangs will give you a window into what it is you crave from work. If you get to the bottom of this, then think about what it would take to make the changes you desire. Sometimes we become overwhelmed with the barriers to change but taking time to assess the true importance of these barriers versus your happiness can make a real difference.
If the change feels too big a leap for you then consider if a stepping stone could help. For example, try taking up a new hobby related to the change in order to broaden your sense of fulfilment- who knows where it might take you or whom you might meet?