This means it is vital for partners to state what they want. By making clear demands as to what they want for each other and for themselves in the coming years. To study, to have a child, to work, to switch careers. Trying to find an agreement point as to what would be possible and to discover where the couple can have an agreed idea of their futures together. Taking responsibility for their own relocation choices.
Research... Don’t just have dreams and wishes. Find out about the location you are going. The costs and the lifestyle. Just finding a roof over your heads is not giving you a home. To create a home both need to be surrounded by an atmosphere and environment that will help them assimilate.
If one is not working anymore how will that affect the family finances? Life abroad, even with a good contract and benefits can be a loss making exercise if someone gives up the home job.
Talk about managing in a new country! Without family, friends, maybe neighbours who speak another language. Could the accompanying person function alone, at least for a while? How can they build up a network to replace work mates, family and community?