Six emotional stages
The six generally accepted stages of emotion that people progress through are slightly different to those engendered by grief, but the core is similar:
It takes time to come to terms with what has happened. On occasion the announcement can come out of blue with little or no warning of what is about to befall you. There is little that you can practically do at this stage but allow time to help you adjust to your new situation.
“This can’t be happening to me!”. This can often be accompanied by feelings of inadequacy if the redundancy has been brought about through internal restructuring and you have to reapply for your role; and aren’t subsequently successful.
Although difficult, try to remember that it is the company’s circumstances and position that have become untenable – not you.
From “This can’t be happening to me!” to “Why is this happening to me?” is not a great leap. It's natural for you to feel angry that through circumstances outside your control, you have been placed in an uncertain and in many cases frightening position.
While anger can be a force that motivates you, it can also cause you to make hasty decisions that may have a negative impact in the long term.
Realising that life must go on and you are not able to change the cause of the redundancy, but you can change where you go next.
Acceptance gives us the energy and motivation to begin exploring options. What is the next step that you want to take on your career path and how are you going to achieve this?
New opportunities await you. Grab them with both hands and actually start moving forward.
It's important to remember that each individual will progress through these stages in their own time, dependant on their own circumstances. It's worth noting that this is not necessarily a linear process; you may experience little set backs from time to time. This is to be expected and you shouldn’t be too hard on yourself – there is no right or wrong way of dealing with this experience, as different things will affect you in different ways.