How do you respond under pressure?
Have you ever tried to 2nd guess a situation and got it completely and utterly wrong? – none is more true than the case in job interviews: as a result of trying to read the heightened situation, the interviewer, and getting all wrapped up and concerned about what questions they are going to ask, what replies they might want or expect to hear from us, the stare or frown they throw etc, can all throw us off track and de-rail, make us fluff our words and sometimes we end up giving incredibly odd and strange answers that ‘come from nowhere’ and were totally as if they were ‘not even us’.
Being sensitive through taking in, or picking up what we think is going on, or even being pre-occupied with what things we may need to do after the meeting, causes us to analyse and assess, and create things that may not be true - and all while the interview is currently taking place - no wonder we find ourselves nervous and under confident, or in a dwelling state of anxiousness post interview.
In regards to the above situation where we try so hard to give the interviewer what we think they want to hear, does ‘not being ourselves’ deliberately or otherwise ever work for anyone including ourselves? The same can be applied to other working situations whether we are trying to be, or sound like our boss or manager in a meeting for team buy-in; toeing the company line or vision; giving conditioned cardboard answers or replies to job applications or negotiating new terms/fees or a piece of business.